Mind your Mind

In todays world there is so much attention to social media and needed to fulfill a persona. It is daunting and stressful. Instead of enjoying moments or the process we are taking photos of things to post for the world to see.

Even as artists on Instagram we are compelled to constantly upkeep our art page for fear of losing followers. Which happens anyway lets face it. If you aren’t posting a couple of times a day your going to drop followers, so you opt to buy automatic posts. A little less stressful but still needs upkeep.

I think the whole point of being on social media is lost with the lack of engagement and real conversations. We don’t build actual relationships with our customers and lasting bonds to create a true fan and business attraction. I mean take twitter for example, how many people actually check the inbox of those new followers who have preprogrammed them to message you once you follow? Its spam and no one likes it. So if there was any it is lost in the mix of all the hiccups of technology.  We rely on likes or hearts, retweets to get there fans to like it to validate what we are doing. Does this get you a sale? Does anyone see what you are trying to accomplish? it does give you exposure this is true but Lets put it into perspective.

Instagram now has over 700 million users, and 250 million users use Instagram Stories every day. In total, Instagram’s added more than 200 million users to its platform in under a year, with 100 million of the newcomers signing on between December and the end of April.  WOW right?

SO does what we do have much impact? If hashtags are used correctly it can be somewhat effective but again its very short lived. You have seconds for someone to see what you post until they scroll to the next image. Just like Twitter, lets put that into perspective.

According to the last statistics, twitter has 554,750,000 users in the world and this number is being continued in each minute. The number of twitter users signing up every day is 135,000; every month about 190 million people are visiting twitter.

How do we go backwards in this ever changing tech world? For those of you who are older who have seen all the changes and followed suit reluctantly you know what I mean. Everyone’s head is pointed down on there phone, headphones in no communication to the people standing right in front of you.

I am included in the mix. When do we unplug? I am so connected to my customers and boss and my online shop that I have become morphed into a walking electronic always no matter what time of day or night engaging with clients, answering questions. When do I sleep, when do I shut down and recharge.

When you realize that no matter what those clients will be there when you get up and that this is vital to disconnect from it for your mental health and well being you will start to set time to prioritize this to keep you fresh and mentally healthy hopefully before you have a meltdown from the stress of it all.

Also when you don’t always feel the need to be ON all the time you will start to get more and more perspective as to what is important. Those moments don’t always need to be photographed.

Those validations are not so important anymore. If you are genuine and you have a craft that takes time and you love what you do then people will see this and you will gain real followers who love your creativity.

Lets not forget the Ladies and Gentlemen who post half naked pics on twitter and Instagram and what ever other social media these people have to show themselves for self gratification;  I am going to address this as well.

You don’t always have to be on posting photos of your body because whom ever loves you will not make you feel like you have to get that kind of positive or negative attention on social media. And somethings should be secret and sacred to just your partner. WE don’t need to see every curve and every muscle that’s meant for your partner.  Leave something to the imagination. Its classier and you attract real meaningful relationships not social fake media ones that lack respect and dignity from these random people whom ultimately don’t matter.  And how are you to trust someone who does this constantly that says they love you for others to view you in your birthday suit? ask yourself that.

Getting down to how to uplug, here is a few things one can do to reconnect with yourself without tech interference.

  1. read a book  ( not on your phone)
  2. meditate, 20 mins a day does wonders
  3. take a walk and leave the phone at home
  4. Have a party with family and friends ( no phones allowed)
  5. Exercise
  6. listen to music
  7. DO something creative, write, paint etc..

I am sure there are more, feel free to add some in the comments section! I would love to hear from you!!!

Namaste

 

The Prize

In becoming receptive
we are changing our perspective

The prize is not whether we win or lose
But to see life in starry eyes of innocence
not of fools

To listen to the quiet
of things where nothing can be bought

To forego the trained beliefs
Of worlds programmed thoughts

Thinking we are at there mercy
so blind and cant see

Nature has many gifts
we always seem to miss

L. Campbell

Life is not what we were programmed to believe.
From young at the age of five we begin to be programmed, in what is right in what is considered “normal” and I use quotations because it’s everyone’s individual life experiences that creates this “normal” for them.
 Life is about listening to words unspoken and energies that create a magnet for something beyond our comprehension.
Sometimes we have to get rid of the noise, turn off the TV the phone and yes even the computer and close our eyes  breathe and begin to feel what it is like to not be on call as it were with the world.
With everything in life it is stressful being plugged in all the time. Our relationships have to be on social media display for people to recognize your Normal.
If you don’t or are single for any length of time, people begin to suspect you may not be Normal so they try and set you up on blind dates so you can become once again what everyone expects.
I think in this day and age we expect too much of others. We need to internalize and reflect a life that makes us happy and stop concerning ourselves with what is perceived as normal.
I really think the world would be a better place if we just minded our own businesses and lived and saw things with eyes of innocence and joy in the little things.
Tomorrow as you step out your door, remember to look up at the clouds or the rain or the birds flying and soak in what the concrete world has  tried so desperately to close off.
Namaste