2019, New year new me? Why I am laughing all the way into the New Year

2019 its upon us. So now you have all these big aspirations and plans right? This year will be different.. this year you are going to lose that weight, eat better, change your job blah blah blah. Sound familiar?

Well, if all you do is get up in the morning and live another day and say you made it then far be it from me to judge you.

We don’t have to aspire just because its a new year, if anything now is the time of reflection. Time to see how far we have come. Pat yourself on the back instead of beating yourself up for all the things you didn’t do. The year has gone by and things have changed. You have changed. Think about the loved ones you met the people around you who impacted your life and made it better. Think about the choices you’ve made and the life you are living now.

The future is the future, it is another day that you haven’t been to yet and you can most definitely change it if you want to, but its up to you and only you and no one can tell you how to get there or what you need to do. Only you can. All these superficial things we worry about are not important, they are time wasters, destroyers of happiness, total bullshit.

Be happy now and in the moment of your day and if you decide you would like to change something, do that and let it be personal to you. Those are the victories that mean anything. The ones that you keep and the ones you decide whatever time of year in which you want to do that. Never mind the stupid photos you see on social media of all the people supposedly doing something… in a month they will have given up just like they do every year. Trust me on that I have seen it a thousand times. I can see it now everyone in march (being generous here) asking to cancel there memberships lol.

SO, be kind to yourself.  No one cares at the end of the day what it is you have done because it is not them, care about it because YOU want to do it because it matters to YOU. If anyone sees it and praises you, bonus! But otherwise stop worrying about everyone else and what they are doing that you aren’t. People these days are so self absorbed it wont matter in a month anyway.  Instead just be kind, be thoughtful, don’t hurt anyone and live your life that makes you happy ❤

Namaste

What’s On the Other Side of YOUR fear?

I keep coming across posts about fear and how to challenge it. I feel like if we don’t know how the mind really works it doesn’t have any real impact.

So I am gonna try and break it down for you, because for me when I heard this when I was reading one of many books on the secret to success and self help books I read something so simple yet so profound that it made perfect sense and it was kind of an ‘aha’ moment.

So fear, The definition is : an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger by something or someone.
b (1) : an instance of this emotion (2) : a state marked by this emotion.

Right so we all know what it is. Ok so what if I told you that your brains one goal and function in its life is to keep you safe and happy?  SO anytime something new or not experienced by the brain would react to it negatively causing you to yep you guessed it create FEAR! SO because you have not experienced this new place or town or  new job, relationships too, your brain doesn’t want you to fail or to be unhappy and since it cannot tell what the outcome is it will cause this reaction and in turn you wont do it because you are afraid. And so you stay in this comfort zone and everything remains the same. But because you are an intelligent human that endless nudge to dream bigger goals achieve greater things is always there too. So we have to push through and no matter what we can at least say yes, I did it and I either know it didn’t work or OMG this is the greatest thing I have ever done!!!

So these posts that say on the other side of fear is the greatest life you can dream makes perfect sense now doesn’t it?

Love learning new things, so simple yet perfect. So the next time you are getting a feeling of no to that new job you been dreaming about, take the chance! you will either not like it the same as you don’t like the one in now OR you LOVE IT and it was the best decision you ever made despite your fear of the unknown.  And this applies to us artists who are afraid to try a new technique or a new media. Just do it!

 

Namaste!

L Campbell

 

2018 – This is your year!

So a month into 2018 and already its going by so fast. Now into February How are your goals looking? Have you started to get into the groove of things and setting up challenges to meet those goals?

Every year people get so excited because a new year means a new chance at obtaining that goal we have been putting off. But like most people once we get right into it the goal seems to take a regular back burner and we don’t end up doing what we set out to do on that great midnight strikes 12 promise.  Most common ones are getting fit or losing weight or quitting smoking.

I think if you plan these things out and not go out on a whim you have a better chance of the goal being obtained.

SO for every day you avoid that donut or walk for 30 mins write it down on your calender. Yes there will be that tempting donut you couldn’t resist but don’t give up! The next day you have a chance to start again. Make it count and once you start writing it down everyday it will become easier and easier to do.

I find that if you can visually see you are working towards something the easier it gets. Like for me if I want to do something I write it down and look at it everyday and ask myself if I have done it or am I just procrastinating?

Also make the goal an exciting thing, its not supposed to be a death sentence. Write a list of all the positives you will get out of it once its achieved put it on the fridge or somewhere you are faced with the decision you made daily. Let it be a constant reminder to keep yourself in check.

Not only that but mentally you have to really want it too, because no matter what if you are doing this for someone else it won’t work. It has to be for you only.

And lastly, don’t tell anyone you are going to do until its done. Nothing like having people eyeball every slip up you make (like eating the damn donut) when you don’t actually do what you said. You are already your own biggest critic so give yourself a break and keep your goals personal until it happens then surprise them with it! Because really this is just about you and no one else. Only you have yourself to keep track of, and it isn’t the responsibility of another person to keep you in check.

So if you want to do something, like that painting sitting in the corner getting dusty, ahem… then its best to set some time aside everyday to get that done. little by little it will if you keep at it!

Namaste,

L. C